You might laugh, but if these things were done, a lot of marriages would be better and divorces fewer. My aunt and uncle have been happily married over sixty years. They not only love and respect each other; they serve each other. No score keeping; they just take care of the needs of the other.
Then he divorces her to marry a 25 yr old. She has to move into a small apartment and live of measly child support because she has no money, no career, no marketable skills, no options… No thank you!
This worked in simpler times but the world has changed. Both partners are coming in from working outside the home. Each need to help pull the load to make the home happy and secure and loving. Much harder than it used to be.
The “guidelines” may sound dated, quaint and sexist, but nothing wrong with either partner thinking of other’s needs.
I retired a few years before my wife did. She came home to a clean house, dinner planned or in-proceess, etc.
Since I don’t wear makeup, nothing to “freshen”, more time to prep for her arrival.
Worked for us – 36+ years and going strong. That was 80’s and 90’s. It could work today. But people want more stuff in their lives, Social Media destroys relationships, and even cell phones are a pain. There is also another part for men as well to fulfill. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Colossians 3:19 NIV
Most woman in the fifty’s didn’t have to work outside of home that doesn’t mean they didn’t work inside the home I am just saying it takes two to run a hope with mutual respect and love towards each other
But, I actually believe they should have a class in school for boys and girls to prepare them for real life and relationships. Many girls go for the bad boys that are cute and have a nice car, these are the men that don’t wind up being good husbands. They should be taught to look for red flags in boys that will eventually become men and have strong habits that will follow them through, and also girls the same outline.
My husband n I have been married almost 57 years n share everything, there’s no your chore my chore it’s whoever can do it at the time. We love each other respect each other n are enjoying getting old together. We care for each other to as we both have medical needs. All my lovin honey
We now live in a “me, me, me” Society. When you get married it should become with a “we, we, we” attitude — Each mindful of the other’s needs. Yes. times have changed but your commitment to each other has not.
It’s called mutual respect!! If he’s the only one working outside the home then no problem, i was fortunate to be able to stay home and be with the boys for 11 years. I did this, once i returned to the workforce everyone pitched in to keep the household running!!!!
ring…ring…ring….the alarm clock sounds..and you realize it was all in a dream! Everybody pulls the load in a relationship and home..it’s all hands on deck to keep harmony, love and peace! 🤗🐰
That’s why chivalry is dead and women killed…and that’s why men’s no want get marry anymore…
What’s the benefits for a man?
Cheating, alimony, child support and all the blame…
Mm no thanks….
Everyone is judgemental as to what is right or wrong – each to their own. I am a strong independent woman but do a lot of the things listed and am not ashamed to say so. My partner does lots of things for me and supports me in many ways . Do what’s right for you
Sounds good but there should be a paragraph on what the woman should expect from him in regards to her hard job of keeping house and raising children …..He needs to help also.
This may have worked well in 1950. Woman were not in the work force so home and family was the priority. But not now. Marriage now really is a partnership and both people have to be ready to pick up the slack were needed.
While I ignore most if these, I do like the “goal” at the end, though in my household, we share that responsibility. And we discuss it frequently. Our goal is to make of our home a place of peace and rest, so that we all, children included, may find solace and healing from the day’s battles “in the world”. Sort of like a battlefield infirmary, so we can all heal and prepare for the battle again tomorrow. It really does work, for all of us. I may disagree with this on the method of providing that place of peace and healing, but I do agree that our homes should have that goal.
Too bad life wasn’t like that now! Kids lives are so busy with school stuff they never spend quality time with Dad. Moms work outside the home and are as beat as Dads. If we would all go back to a simple way of life and learn you can do so much more with less STUFF and more time as a family, the world would be a much better place!
This is the era I was raised in. Interesting ! Times have changed. Is change good???? May want to think about it! Live in the day, always thanking God for our blessings!
Of course they mature and change through storms of life and responsibilities but if God and His Word are not in their life as a real guide and presence there is no foundation to stand upon other than just being nice to each other.
If I acted like that my husband would want to know who was I and what did I do with his wife. We’ve been married for 34 years. We help each other. I had to retire early. There is a lot I can no longer do and he does what he can. We talk things over all the time. My Nana had the perfect definition of marriage. “ There were times I Was wishing he was in hell and vice versa but they were still the best 54 years of my life.”
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My wife used this to paper the bird cage.
You might laugh, but if these things were done, a lot of marriages would be better and divorces fewer. My aunt and uncle have been happily married over sixty years. They not only love and respect each other; they serve each other. No score keeping; they just take care of the needs of the other.
I heard the author of this piece was murdered by the other wives in her community
Then he divorces her to marry a 25 yr old. She has to move into a small apartment and live of measly child support because she has no money, no career, no marketable skills, no options… No thank you!
written in a time when women had no expectations of their own lives!
This worked in simpler times but the world has changed. Both partners are coming in from working outside the home. Each need to help pull the load to make the home happy and secure and loving. Much harder than it used to be.
The “guidelines” may sound dated, quaint and sexist, but nothing wrong with either partner thinking of other’s needs.
I retired a few years before my wife did. She came home to a clean house, dinner planned or in-proceess, etc.
Since I don’t wear makeup, nothing to “freshen”, more time to prep for her arrival.
Worked for us – 36+ years and going strong. That was 80’s and 90’s. It could work today. But people want more stuff in their lives, Social Media destroys relationships, and even cell phones are a pain. There is also another part for men as well to fulfill. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Colossians 3:19 NIV
Maybe we should change Husband to Wife, since alot of Wives are the breadwinners now, just saying🤷🏼♀️
Most woman in the fifty’s didn’t have to work outside of home that doesn’t mean they didn’t work inside the home I am just saying it takes two to run a hope with mutual respect and love towards each other
But, I actually believe they should have a class in school for boys and girls to prepare them for real life and relationships. Many girls go for the bad boys that are cute and have a nice car, these are the men that don’t wind up being good husbands. They should be taught to look for red flags in boys that will eventually become men and have strong habits that will follow them through, and also girls the same outline.
My husband n I have been married almost 57 years n share everything, there’s no your chore my chore it’s whoever can do it at the time. We love each other respect each other n are enjoying getting old together. We care for each other to as we both have medical needs. All my lovin honey
I find most of the comments funny and sad at the same time but explains why the world is in such a mess today.
In your dreams A marriage is all about doing it together sharing and respecting each other. No one person in a marriage is better than the other.
We now live in a “me, me, me” Society. When you get married it should become with a “we, we, we” attitude — Each mindful of the other’s needs. Yes. times have changed but your commitment to each other has not.
My mom did this and I see nothing wrong with it. Now, everyone works, everyone takes on the stressed and no one comes out on top
Oh, did not realize they married children instead of men back then.
We have been married 58 years. The key to happiness is 50/50 arrangement. We do everything together.
We respect each other at all times.
It’s called mutual respect!! If he’s the only one working outside the home then no problem, i was fortunate to be able to stay home and be with the boys for 11 years. I did this, once i returned to the workforce everyone pitched in to keep the household running!!!!
I have a cookbook from the 50′ and after every recipe it tells you to go and dress up for your husband and make sure that the house and kids are clean
ring…ring…ring….the alarm clock sounds..and you realize it was all in a dream! Everybody pulls the load in a relationship and home..it’s all hands on deck to keep harmony, love and peace! 🤗🐰
That’s why chivalry is dead and women killed…and that’s why men’s no want get marry anymore…
What’s the benefits for a man?
Cheating, alimony, child support and all the blame…
Mm no thanks….
BAHAHAAA! Whoever wrote this must have been on some good drugs.
Everyone is judgemental as to what is right or wrong – each to their own. I am a strong independent woman but do a lot of the things listed and am not ashamed to say so. My partner does lots of things for me and supports me in many ways . Do what’s right for you
Sounds good but there should be a paragraph on what the woman should expect from him in regards to her hard job of keeping house and raising children …..He needs to help also.
This may have worked well in 1950. Woman were not in the work force so home and family was the priority. But not now. Marriage now really is a partnership and both people have to be ready to pick up the slack were needed.
Seems like common sense instructions to me lol
Good paper to light the fire with lol
While I ignore most if these, I do like the “goal” at the end, though in my household, we share that responsibility. And we discuss it frequently. Our goal is to make of our home a place of peace and rest, so that we all, children included, may find solace and healing from the day’s battles “in the world”. Sort of like a battlefield infirmary, so we can all heal and prepare for the battle again tomorrow. It really does work, for all of us. I may disagree with this on the method of providing that place of peace and healing, but I do agree that our homes should have that goal.
Too bad life wasn’t like that now! Kids lives are so busy with school stuff they never spend quality time with Dad. Moms work outside the home and are as beat as Dads. If we would all go back to a simple way of life and learn you can do so much more with less STUFF and more time as a family, the world would be a much better place!
I’m retired , so is he. He better get off his lazy bum and start vacuuming, if he wants me to cook.
This is the era I was raised in. Interesting ! Times have changed. Is change good???? May want to think about it! Live in the day, always thanking God for our blessings!
Its no wonder the men of my generation, think they are Gods. This is exactly how it was 60 years ago
I think this was written by a male
Of course they mature and change through storms of life and responsibilities but if God and His Word are not in their life as a real guide and presence there is no foundation to stand upon other than just being nice to each other.
If I acted like that my husband would want to know who was I and what did I do with his wife. We’ve been married for 34 years. We help each other. I had to retire early. There is a lot I can no longer do and he does what he can. We talk things over all the time. My Nana had the perfect definition of marriage. “ There were times I Was wishing he was in hell and vice versa but they were still the best 54 years of my life.”
Not in today’s world husbands should help out,